The inspiration for this post came from Yawatta Hosby’s post: You Know You’re an INTJ when. . .
After reading the list Yawatta provided, I realized I’m definitely not an INTJ. My closest friends are though, and I’m pretty different than them. I took the test on this site: Free Personality Test. They don’t require you to sign up for anything or enter you e-mail to get the results. You are categorized as one of the 16 Myers-Briggs defined personalities. It classified me as an INFP, which stands for introversion, intuition, feeling, and perception. I’m not sure how accurate the test is, but INFP describes me perfectly. If you’d like more info on the 16 types Wikipedia has a great article on it: Wikipedia: Myers-Briggs Personality Types
I’ll list out some of the personality traits of INFP that apply to me
1. INFPs are idealists and look for the good in any situation. They try to find meaning in life, and make the world a better place.
Yes, this describes me pretty well. This is probably why after so many negative interactions with people I keep persevering. For all of the evil in the world, there is so much more goodness to counteract it. I try to make sense of the bad in the world, and turn it into something good. I’m constantly trying to be nice to other people, and it’s because it makes me feel good. So I guess it’s not that altruistic. I get a rush of adrenaline when I help other people. I love it. Nothing makes me happier than making a friend or loved one happy, which includes my kittes :3 If I see a homeless man with a dog outside of a store, I will go into the store and buy both of them some food. My husband and I don’t have a lot of money, but we have enough to spare for me to feed a homeless man and his dog when I happen upon them. It’s the least I can do :$
2. They are motivated by beauty, honor, and virtue, and they take pride in this. Others may not understand the underlying principles of an INFP and that can lead to isolation.
Actually, I really dislike this part about myself. I’m very honest and it is hard for me not to be that way. It’s not that I can’t lie, it’s just that I don’t like to. If I have to lie a bit to prevent myself from hurting someone I will, but it’s not a habit of mine. I’m very much like a cat in that aspect. A cat can’t pretend to like something or someone if they don’t. The plus side is that I’m a genuine person. My mom joked that I could never get into trouble because I would tell on myself. Yep, pretty much XD
3. INFPs often drift into deep thought, enjoying contemplation more so than any of the other personality types. They can get carried away and lose themselves in thought to the point that they need a friend or family member to pull them back to reality.
This happens to me all the time. I’m often lost in my thoughts. This is one reason I try to stay away from sad and/or introspective movies, books, and video games. The experience overwhelms with so many emotions that I have to withdraw from society to make sense of it all. After reading Orwell’s 1984 as a teen I didn’t want to talk to anyone for days. Same thing happened with Vonnegut’s, Slaughter House Five, and Peter S. Beagle’s, The Last Unicorn. The video game, Crisis Core, had me bawling for days after it ended. I was so sad I could barely eat. Anything that makes me sad or think really hard will often make me a hermit. My loved ones have to pull me out of my cave and back to reality.
4. They hate conflict and go to great lengths to avoid it. If they get involved they place little importance on who is right or wrong, but how it makes them feel. They don’t want to feel badly, and this may make them appear illogical to others.
I think this describes my situation with my recent fanfiction drama perfectly XD In the end it didn’t matter who was right or wrong. I felt so horrible I wanted to starve myself, and I hate that feeling. I was tired of being miserable and scared, so I had to leave. I bet the people I left behind might be going WTF because they didn’t expect me to just leave XD And that’s the worst thing I could do to them. They accused me of being the eternal victim, as if I enjoyed playing that role. I didn’t want to be the victim or attacker. I just wanted to write. In general though I really dislike conflict and try hard to avoid it. That’s why I have also distanced myself from my parents. I don’t want to fight with them anymore. I’m tired of the inevitable conflict that arises when we get together.
5. INFPs are flexible and laid back until one of their principles is violated, and then they get fired up and fight passionately for their cause.
If anyone messes with a loved one, I can get pretty mean. One of my sister’s boyfriend was a huge jerk, and I sent him several nasty Facebook messages condemning what he did to her. My sister’s current fiance is controlling, and my parents gave me so much crap for bringing it up. In the end, I didn’t care. I was looking out for her best interest because she’s my little sister so it was worth the fight. I’m also pretty passionate about other issues like feline activism. I went on a few Youtube videos and educated several people who were trying to say private ownership of exotic cats was a good thing. I never looked back to see their responses. I didn’t want to fight. I just wanted to inform people about how cruel it was.
6. They communicate easily with others, often employing the use of metaphors and symbolism to share their ideas.
Yes, I love talking with others and using metaphors XD
7. Many INFP’s have a talent for expressing themselves through fictional characters.
This might explain why I can’t write creative non-fiction. I tried, and I can’t do it. I don’t really enjoy it either. Fiction is just much easier to write for me.
8. In contradiction to their extroverted equivalent, INFP’s will focus their energy on a few people. Their affection spread out over too many people will exhaust them.
Yes, I have a few select friends that I hold dear to my heart, and I expend most of my energy on them. If I’m depressed I withdraw into myself, and I only speak to one or two of my closest friends because it’s too exhausting to talk to all of my friends. I like to have “me” time as well.
9. Their affection, creativity, altruism, and idealism rewards those they love with a world view that inspires compassion and beauty.
I’d sound like an arrogant jackass if I said this was true. But I’ve had a few close friends tell me that they find me inspiring :$ It’s not that I try to be. I’m just trying to make sense of the world, and I’m a fighter. When I get knocked down, my friends help prop me up until I find my strength again. Then I’m off running till the next roadblock trips me up, and I fall down.
10. INFP’s have very high standards that they hold themselves and the rest of the world to. They have to balance their perfectionism with the reality of life, and often find themselves lost in-between.
This is me. I’m a perfectionist, and I’m never good enough for myself. I have really tried to shift the focus off of defined goals because I will never meet them and will be constantly disappointing myself. When I first started writing fiction, I wanted to be another Cormac McCarthy. Unfortunately, in my mind I will never be a great writer no matter how good I am, so I try to think of myself on a journey to improve instead. It’s an achievable goal that allows me to not disappoint myself 🙂
What personality type are you? What personality type are your friends?