This is a picture of me and my husband from our early days of courtship. I had flown over to Japan to meet his family, who were incredibly sweet and welcoming. I was a huge otaku at the time, so it had always been a dream of mine to visit Japan. I might talk about it in a later post, or maybe I already did? I’m blonde and six feet tall, so everyone stared at me like I was an alien 😄 They would openly comment about me assuming I didn’t speak Japanese. I didn’t, but my husband (boyfriend at the time) did.
I met him when I was 17 years old. We were both going to the same college, and I saw him sitting at the lunch counter. I was taking Japanese, so I put that book on top and sat next to him, hoping he would notice and it would start a conversation. Well, it worked 😄 I’m shy and socially awkward, so I’m glad he was the one to initiate a conversation. We started dating shortly after that. He was my first real boyfriend because I didn’t date in high school. We broke up about three years after dating, and then got back together, and got married about a year after rekindling our relationship.
I was anorexic when we first met. You’ll notice in the pic I am wearing a coat because I was always freezing. We’ve been together for over 10 years and in that time period I’ve had two bouts of anorexia, depression, generalized anxiety disorder, hypothyroidism (now treated), three hip preservation surgeries, debilitating chronic pain from multiple joints, and an Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome diagnosis. There have been some tough years. Living with someone that has a physical and/or mental illness is exhausting. He didn’t always believe me (no one but my sister and closest friends did), but now he does. Our relationship is in a good place now 🙂
He came into my life when I hated myself so much I wanted to disappear. I remember thinking God sent him to be my guardian angel because he helped me through so much. I don’t know if I still believe that, but I feel lucky we were both in the cafeteria at the same time on that particular day. We’ve both changed a lot since we first met, but we’ve grown closer together again 🙂 We’ve both become better people, at least in my opinion. Growing up I used to think that I would marry someone who was a tortured soul like me, but he’s pretty much the opposite. Sometimes you don’t know what you want until you are older, at least I didn’t.